The Conversation

Having a conversation with your parent in advance is always the best option.


Schedule a time with your siblings in a public location without their spouses so you can decide what is best. Keep in regular communication and schedule time to address the issues, such as visiting, cleaning, making sure they eat and take their medication, get to doctor appointments, etc.


Ask your parent(s) about the following:

  • Monthly bills and expenses
  • Medications and schedules
  • Medical Records
  • List of Doctors
  • Doctor Appointments
  • Pet care


Home Maintenance:

  • Home maintenance and regular care
  • Smoke Detectors
  • Carbon Monoxide Detectors
  • Unknown Leaks
  • Mildew/mold issues
  • Water Heater installation and strapping (permits are a must)
  • Any other deferred maintenance



  • Are they fit to drive?
  • Condition of the Car (tires, maintenance, etc.)



  • Advance Health Care Directive Form
  • Wills/Trusts - if they exist and if they are up-to-date
  • Bank Accounts
  • Investment Accounts
  • Insurance Policies
  • Mortgages or Other Loans
  • Pensions
  • Deeds and Titles
  • Pink Slip to Car
  • Passport
  • Retirement Accounts
  • Safety Deposit Boxes and Keys
  • Credit Accounts
  • Valuables stored in home and elsewhere
  • Computer Passwords
  • Division of Assets
  • Name of Executor
  • Power of Attorney (Healthcare and Durable)
  • Special bequests
  • Housing alternatives with friends/family
  • Retirement Community
  • Assisted Living Center
  • Nursing Facility


End of Life Decisions:

  • Obituary writing
  • Burial or Cremation preferences
  • Funeral preferences (music, eulogy, conductor, food)
  • Memorial preference in lieu of flowers
  • Living bequests - Discuss sentimental item distribution to children/heirs


How may I

help You?

BETTY FERNANDEZ REALTOR®            Broker-Associate

(805) 766-1495

DRE #01452802


Former Certified Residential Appraiser

Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES)
Certified Probate Real Estate Specialist (CPRES)

Bilingual English/Spanish


Five Myths of Aging

1. I am never growing old.

2. My kids will take care of me.

3. I am not leaving my house unless it's in a pine box.

4. The government will take care of me if I run out of money.

5. I am safe because I have long-term care insurance.

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